Shared residence & holidays

Well I am back from the abyss of work I have been plunged into post Baby P although despite statements to the effect that things are slowing down it is marginal. An interesting question has been exercising me: can a holder of a shared residence order take a child on holiday abroad without the consent…

Equal parenting time

A questioner asks me whether I have experience of fathers getting anything like 50/50of parenting time. The short answer is yes, but this, of course, does not do justice to the question. Over 15 years in practice, I must have seen just about every permutation of time division between separated parents from zero to 90%…

Taking it out on the children

The Independent reports on a father who has been sentenced to life in prison for the murder of his 4 year old son. He also attempted to murder his 14 year old daughter, seemingly in an act of revenge against his wife who he had discovered was having an affair. Most parents don’t take things…

Peace & conciliation

Scenes you seldom see between separating parents? Excellent post by John Bolch of Family Lore on Agreeing Arrangements for the Children . If you are trying to work together with a separated parent you might also be interested in using a Parenting Plan as a basis for discussion. You can find one here (as a…

Do parents matter and do they know best?

Recent research by a team of psychologists led by Dr Kristin Heffernan has found that mother certainly doesn’t think she knows best. Present day mothers apparently trust “expert” medical advice more than their own instincts. They might be comforted to read what Levitt & Dubner say in Freakonomics about what makes the perfect parent (see…