If you are trying to work together with a separated parent you might also be interested in using a Parenting Plan as a basis for discussion. You can find one here (as a pdf file) . You may also find it useful getting a mediator to help you get the conversation going. There are lots of different types of mediation. One professional body for accredited mediators is the College of Family Mediators . For more guidance on choosing a mediator see this this blogpost on Family Law Week’s blog .