The real point to consider is – will it really make a difference on a day-to-day basis? Will it cause difficulties that you either have to put up with anyway or ought to?
Non-resident parents have a lot of separate rights, for example, under the Human Rights Act, by their ability to make an application to the court for orders about the child’s upbringing, by their right to have certain information from schools and doctors etc.
It is a fairly rare situation where a court would say that shared parental responsibility cannot be made to work.
A resident parent should also take account of certain realities. If parents cannot agree about something, will they really take the dispute to the court?
This will be affected by a number of points, including, for example, MONEY. Can the non-resident carer afford to be constantly referring disagreements to the court? How easily can they take time off work to go to court? How likely is it that the non-resident parent would be successful if they did apply to the court? Does the non-resident parent really want to have an argument in court (as opposed to over the telephone) about a relatively small point? Is there some other way of avoiding arguments about small issues or reassuring both parents? For example, is there a helpful third party such as a grandparent or family friend who can help negotiate smaller points?
Another reality check: even if a parent does not have parental responsibility, this does not stop them making an application to the court to have contact, or to challenge the decision of the parent with primary care.
Ask yourself whether in all those circumstances it really makes any difference to you whether a non-resident father has parental responsibility?
Think very hard about your reasons for objecting. How would they sound as tabloid headlines? What would your mother or best friend say? How much is your view influenced by the nature of the adult relationship and break up? Are you simply using the PR issue as a bargaining chip? Can you really put forward a child-centred reason for refusing PR? There aren’t very many.